Take this how you want. I don't feel divorse is a bad thing. I think you will find someone who will make you feel how you should feel and she will support you no matter what. Your now ex-wife wasn't the one. Time will go bye and you will find a woman that will make you see how good things can be. And it will feel amazing. You will be more motivated and have a great outlook on life. I know things suck right now, but I feel that this sets you up to be way more happy then you have ever been.

I'm not a motivational speaker, I just know how much crap you've been through lately and how you wanted to give up, but you bounced off the ropes and kept swingin'. I'm pulling for you and I think everyone else is on this site. Go get em.

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guys

i guess i didnt wait long enough to figure her out .funny how some change when money changes.
thanks for the support. the only part that really sucks is i waited until i was 35 to have my first and only child and now i have to deal with how this will effect her.she is 2 yrs 5 months.im just going to do my best.
ill leave it there.
shoulda,woulda, coulda .
cencal69....i hope your right....

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tom

XXXXXXXX2222222222!!! good luck Tom !! Jim :cool:

Tom, we are here for you! Take care of yourself and your little girl!

Tom, sorry to hear about your situation, not to be an ass, but lately it seems that everyone just wants to throw in a towel,because it's the easiest thing to do,half the time the problem is wrong friends or lack of good friends and God's presence in your life,I'd do my best and try to work things out, remember that "I DO", "for better or worse"?

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stefan

im with you .. i have suggested we get help .several times .but sometimes people dont want to do the hard work..being married i work...
you sound like me ...its not easy to give up.it takes two to make it work ..some like the benefits of hard working people but they dont like working hard.

tom

You are absolutely correct here... while any two people can make a marriage work, no one person can!

The best thing you can do for your daughter is to always be her dad. Don't get involved in petty stuff with your ex, and never talk bad about her or her choices.

If you want a great book to help you out on the "next one," pick up a copy of Love and Respect by Eggerichs Emerson. It has a Christian bent to it, but even if you don't practice Christianity, the advice given in the book is fantastic.

Don't give up guy, remember, you cannot control the things that happen to you, but you can control they in which you react to those things.

Shiny Side Up!
Bill

Hey Bro. I can totally relate. I'm getting divorced as well. I lost my last job 2 years ago and have been trying to build my freelance photo business, which has been going well but even without the layoff and such, we had been having problems for a long time. I have two boys to think about. It sounds like we had the same issues. She didn't want to work on the marriage either. We were fine as long as I did everything. Somehow she wanted me to work less and make more money while trying to build a business. But this was only such a minor part of it. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, i understand. Keep your head up. It'll be a tough road for a while, but believe me, it gets easier.

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bill and robert...thanks for your response....
robert you do great work .i hope your business keeps growing .
i have alot of work to do on this situation. it seems she may have changed her mind about us getting help....im gonna be real cautious..and get help with this situation....i dont wanna get railroaded .....


tom

PM Sent

Shiny Side Up!
Bill