Alan - Kudos to you and your sacrifices. your wifes offer was super. you made a good choice as the kids need your help! after being married for 27 years and my wife raised our 3 kids and did a great job - I am so thankful for her super strength. if your car goes to your dad or brother you know it aint far. One of my best friends went through a divorce and lost all his cars and ultimatly his life. It was horrible watching the down hill slide - I always thougt he'd bounce back. His family and I are still trying to hold it together, he made some bad choices and we all miss him. be thankful for what you have as its just a car, and being in the family you know its not gone. hang in there