Wow Mike
I dread ever having to face this with my kids. My son is 7 and so far no problems with this kinda stuff. My daughter is almost 4 and more shy. I dread the "mean girl" crap with my daughter more than my son. That stuff is so much harder to deal with.
I think you are going through the right channels and doing the right thing.....but I hate to say it but it probably wont change the situation. Short of that kid moving schools, your son will deal with this kid again. They may be in a different class but if this other kid has it out for your son, he will find him again.
There is only one way to deal with a bully and thats straight on....telling him not to do something or saying "leave that kid alone" only fuels their desire. Its a power play and thats exactly what they want. They want to be challenged and show that they can do whatever they want to whomever they want and no one can stop them. If he know he can push everyone buttons he will go out of his way to do it.
If it were me I would do exactly what you have done....try all the "right" channels first. Get it all documented..... then I would give my kid free reigh to lay the smackdown on this kid. He doesnt need to beat the crap out of him...it wont take much for this kid to realize that he needs to find someone else to mess with...one decent punch will usually do it.
I know that may be hard to face at his age. But you teach him that you try to do the right thing first, but sometimes "enough is enough" and you have to do whats necessary to stand up for yourself. That should be the message for your son.
Man I hope I never have to deal with this crap....
Good luck.
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