[DFRESH]

Eric, my wife is a 1st grade teacher and has dealt with her fair share of these types of issues. First off, your son's teacher isn't doing enough---this type of behavior in class that you are speaking of (at least her in Cali) gets the kid thrown out for suspension. Further, social services and a counselor are called in for the kid in question when this type of behavior takes place. That's been our experience over the past 12 years here. They (your school and its district) need to be doing more for you and this other boy.

The unfortunate part of this type of story is that the kid being thrown out is usually being abused or mistreated at home (typically a recent divorce, step brother or sister hits them, etc). I think you are approaching the right people in this, but you will have to make it painful for them since they are showing obvious signs of being disengaged. When your son is there, he is "their" responsibility legally--they have to safeguard his well being and provide a safe enviornment. You aren't just fighting for your son, you are setting the example for the school and the district that they must take this seriously, and you may have to force it upon them through the voice of an attorney like Mike has mentioned---it's a good fight since it will ultimately affect all the kids when it is finished. Your son may be able to stand up for himself, however there will be many other kids that this boy will find to pick on who won't be able too---you know the damage that does to such young kids---keep doing what you are doing and get the pain in the right place---the media certainly isn't a bad idea given what you have said, and trust me Eric, they would be interested--you can pretty much be guaranteed that the issue would be resolved when they are brought in. It would be a great idea to alert the other parents about this as well, as you can be assured that it's not just your son this kid is affecting. Some kids just won't say anything to their parents about it all---those are the ones who suffer the most. Get a couple of those serious soccor moms po'd and you've got some powerful allies.

Now, I am with the others however should the kid in question not lay off your son after you've done all you can do. You've turned the other cheek and it is admirable--I applaud your kindness to the other boy through your son. You are setting a great example to him. I've got a 7 year old in 1st grade and a 4 year old daughter---like others and yourself, I dread this type of thing as much as has been mentioned. The thought of someone hurting them or even the threat of it would seriously enrage me, so I understand your restraint and admire it. I will get some advice from my wife as well on this and pass that onto you. Please keep us posted as to the outcomes--this is good info to pass along.

Doug