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Originally Posted by ProdigyCustoms
I raised 3 boys. As much as I hate to say it, if he kicks that kids ass in front of everyone, he will probably get suspended, but won't have to worry about this stuff ANYMORE! If he continues to handle this through "the system". there is another bully waiting where this one left off.
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But sometimes, if not all, that kid needs someone to beat him back so he doesn't continue treating people like that and the sooner the better. I understand not wanting to raise your kid to be violent but he has to know it's okay to defend himself. Maybe not beat the crap out of the kid but if the kid punches him in the face he should swing back. Not beat the crap out of him, just pop him back. Assertive and strong so the bully knows he's not afraid of him and he won't let someone treat him like that. Because the bully is only picking on him because he's not defending himself. And it really can't be good for your kids self-esteem. He may know he can beat the kid but it's got to be imbarrassing to let the bully mess with him. Getting that kid removed from that class just probably just make things worse. Then he'll be picking on him at recess and lunch and/or waiting of him before and after school and he'll blame your son for "getting him in trouble" and then what? One day that bully might push him too far and your kid might really hurt him. Or the bully might do something extreme to try to get him to fight back and hurt your son. He should never start anything though. I was in a few fights between kindergarden, 1st, and 2nd grade. I never started any of them and I put up with a lot of stuff but when I had to fight back I did and I never had a problem with anyone after. I didn't beat up the kid, most of the got broken up pretty quickly, and no one ever got punished. May have just been luck but I honestly don't understand how the school could punish someone of standing up to that kind of behavior, though I know it happenes. I even got in a fight with a kid in the 1st grade because he was messing with someone, not really my friend but it was really bad what he was doing to him and after he never messed with anybody as far as I know. The kid just needed to be shown that what he was doing was wrong and those kind of people don't really respond to being told no matter the age. So I'm not saying he should just start fighting everyone that gives him a hard time but I think he should stand up for himself. And when you do decide it's time for him to stand up for himself, try to go over the kinds of things that should be, not allowable but understandable for fighting back. That part I believe is very important and should be done the sooner the better. Just my opinion but whatever happens I hope everything turns out for the better.