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Originally Posted by rwhite692
We have two adopted children. As you know from going through the training / qualification process, there are always potential problems, the most common one is that a family relative of the child in question will raise their hand to say that they will take the child in, and then they themselves manage to get qualified, and the child winds up being placed with them.
The other common hiccup is that the child gets placed with sibling(s) that have already been placed with another foster/adopt family.
In our Daughter's case, we had to wait out the process of parental rights being terminated on the birth father's side, and he did nothing to help the process along, so that was an anxious few months.
In my Son's case, there was the issue where Grandparents on the birthmom's side did step up to say they would take him, but they failed to get qualified to take him due to having a bad family economic situation and grandpa also had a criminal background.
All I can tell you is, hang in there and the right situation will come through for you. You are absolutely right that the need out there is tremendous.
As you learned in your training, the most common thread running through most of these broken families is drugs and related issues.
I love our two adopted kids like they were our own, sometimes I think even maybe more, since I shudder to think of how their lives might have gone, had they not been adopted (by anyone, not specifically us) and had somehow stayed in their respective birthparent family situations. It would have been just terrible, in both cases.
Very happy to see that you posted about this, and encourage any prospective foster / adoptive parents to check into it, it has been the greatest thing in our lives. -Rob
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Man - that is an awesome inspiration. Yes, the devastation I've seen in the training, then practical situation among other foster parents and the sponsor organizations of drug/alcohol abuse is heart breaking. Worst yet, is the cases of children raising and covering for the parents when the addiction becomes that bad. These kids go through guilt of being pulled out of those situations because they feel like they are in some way to blame.
I'm happy you were able to save a couple of them. I have a friend that appears to be a the end of a long road with the court system and parental right termination issue. Their foster child was brought to the home at four days old. The mother already has five other children and every one of them is in a foster home - and mom looks like she is pregnant again.