So it turns out;
The flywheel was good
The pressure plate was badly out of balance.
It's a good thing that I didn't drive the car much.
So I worked all last night, and put everything back together, dropped the car on the ground.
Wow what a difference. It's like driving a different car. Fresh syncromax fluid in the trans, and I am impressed.
The only thing that has me bothered, is that the starter is making a funny noise now, like it is hitting a small piece of sheet metal or something, or is misaligned.
Not sure what would have happened, same starter same location...
Guess I'll be taking that puppy out again