[GM Muscle]

i grew up with a martial arts background. my parents gave me a real simpe set of rules

1)there is never a good reason to lie
2)you never throw the first punch
3)you can do what ever you want as long as you are willing to accept the consequences...

These were the rules that were layed out for me. i must admit im a "good" kid.
im 26 and have never done any drugs. never been to jail, never been into any real trouble.

with that being said i think that you are trying to make a passive approach to your sons situation which is very admirable, BUT one day your son will have to take a stand. I think your doing a great job handling the situation but at the same time this new era of kids has no respect or morale.. just keep that in the back of your head when the next bully comes around.. when little girls are capable of hazing another one into a coma its clear that the only reason these kids keep bullying is because they have no consequences for their actions. one day our son will have to be the consequence...