School bully issue, opinions wanted

[comp-spec]

GREAT example of a good parent.
Best luck with your boy

[70rs]

Originally Posted by comp-spec

GREAT example of a good parent.
Best luck with your boy

Thank you Pete, that means a lot to me.

How is your grandbaby and daughter doing? I hope everyone is well. We need a picture of the little one.

[Beegs]

Eric, you have done the right thing and have exhausted all ways to handle this situation. I hope it all works out...please keep us updated!

[rwhite692]

Eric I had missed this thread, nothing more to add (my oldest is only 3.5 so my experience is quite limited!) but it sounds like you have handled it very well. Hope the situation stabilizes for you. -Rob

[70rs]

Thanks Bryan and Rob,
So far it seems to be ok. The teacher is really happy I took it to the level I did since she was getting no support from the principal. And that he is retiring now is just icing on the cake. I am VERY happy about that.
The school has really stepped up and helped the other kid too. I hope they keep the pressure on the state and other parents and follow through for him.
My son is doing great. He is happy the other kid is leaving him alone and he seems much more relaxed now.
I'll keep you all posted. Thanks again for all of the good advice and kind words.

[Mkelcy]

Sometimes it's hardest to do the right thing. You did. Congratulations. Your kid and the bully are both lucky they have you.

[tones2SS]

Originally Posted by 70rs

Thanks Bryan and Rob,
So far it seems to be ok. The teacher is really happy I took it to the level I did since she was getting no support from the principal. And that he is retiring now is just icing on the cake. I am VERY happy about that.

I wonder if he is retiring because of what was going on and his handling of the situation?
Either way, it's all good!!!

[GM Muscle]

i grew up with a martial arts background. my parents gave me a real simpe set of rules

1)there is never a good reason to lie
2)you never throw the first punch
3)you can do what ever you want as long as you are willing to accept the consequences...

These were the rules that were layed out for me. i must admit im a "good" kid.
im 26 and have never done any drugs. never been to jail, never been into any real trouble.

with that being said i think that you are trying to make a passive approach to your sons situation which is very admirable, BUT one day your son will have to take a stand. I think your doing a great job handling the situation but at the same time this new era of kids has no respect or morale.. just keep that in the back of your head when the next bully comes around.. when little girls are capable of hazing another one into a coma its clear that the only reason these kids keep bullying is because they have no consequences for their actions. one day our son will have to be the consequence...

[70rs]

Originally Posted by GM Muscle

i grew up with a martial arts background. my parents gave me a real simpe set of rules

1)there is never a good reason to lie
2)you never throw the first punch
3)you can do what ever you want as long as you are willing to accept the consequences...

These were the rules that were layed out for me. i must admit im a "good" kid.
im 26 and have never done any drugs. never been to jail, never been into any real trouble.

with that being said i think that you are trying to make a passive approach to your sons situation which is very admirable, BUT one day your son will have to take a stand. I think your doing a great job handling the situation but at the same time this new era of kids has no respect or morale.. just keep that in the back of your head when the next bully comes around.. when little girls are capable of hazing another one into a coma its clear that the only reason these kids keep bullying is because they have no consequences for their actions. one day our son will have to be the consequence...

I totally agree with what you are saying. And I know there will be a time that he has to deal with something like this first hand. My biggest concern about this one is my sons age and it is his first year in school. I had to show him that there is a way to handle it without fighting. BUT.....he DOES know that he may have no choice and need to make some other kid understand where he is coming from too. He is a smart kid. He will do what is right based on the situation. An example of why he DIDN'T fight back on two occasions was that the other kid threw stuff from a distance, the teacher saw, he got busted. Now if my son had run over and kicked his ass in front of all the other 5 year olds he would have been in huge trouble with the school (not me though) and he would have been suspended. When the kid punched him in the eye they were standing in line ready to go to the lunch room, the kid was behind him and pushed my son forward hard. When my son turned to see what the deal was and told him to stop it the kid called him stupid and punched him in the right eye. My son did hit him back (three hard rapid punches in the chest) and knocked him down(made him cry too ). But the kid didn't learn and still kept throwing stuff, kicking him then running away....that kind of crap. He is a sneaky little sh**.
So my son did fight back when it was needed and possible while in front of each other. After that most incidents involved something being thrown so my son could not reach him. He knows better than to chase him down and beat him up. He handled it right as far as I am concerned. His school teacher and martial arts teacher also agree he did well. I had to get involved to get it to stop. And it seems to be handled at this point. Brenden (my son) knows that if the kid does ANYTHING to him in the future that he can and should unload on him.

[GM Muscle]

good deal. im glad your kid's on the right track. the kids these days are just flat out weird!! i think no one being held accountable for their actions (parents and kids) is the root of most of the problems everyone faces these days..