Finally got a chance to take the car to a collision shop with a digital frame table. Should have a report this afternoon...
On first inspection, the guy is pretty sure the driver side frame rail is probably "rolled in" alittle........ with the impact the suspension bottoms out.....bump stops slams into the spring pocket and the whole thing just bends in as a unit. That all makes sense....rag joint closer to header etc etc...... since everything moves as a unit, its hard to visually see where its bent.
If it is bent, its not worth trying to mess with the stock subframe......so as long as I can get the insurance company to agree, its time for an aftermarket subframe

....so there may be an "+" side to all this....but a huge PITA to take everything apart. Especially since I have the Cuda taking so much of my time.
So....DSE, SpeedTech, AME......hum..... decisions, decisions......
I'd like to do it in a way that I dont have to chnage the BS on my wheels, swap brakes , headers etc etc....as simple of a "pull out the stock, transfer some parts over and put in the new" as possible.