You definitely do not want the header to support any weight other than itself. The turbo needs to be supported, whether from the bottom or top. They make oil drain adapters, it's a spacer that you weld on a support structure to support the turbo. The spacer bolts between the turbo and oil drain.
Sometimes you don't have room on the bottom. In my case, I only had room to hang the turbo's. I designed a stainless bracket:
That would center the weight of the turbo, and used a high temp rod end:
I attached this to a rod with a threaded tube end. This allows me to fine tune the placement.
You'll want either double slips on the collector (best way IMO) or a bellows, to allow expansion of the header to turbo. You'll want the same for the waste gate.