School bully issue, opinions wanted

[70rs]

Originally Posted by Ketzer

Just a little add-on to my earlier post, the school made a big deal about my buddy's son being "trained to fight". That was the issue that got him black listed. None of the earlier stuff mattered, they zeroed in on the martial arts part and the good kid became the out of control monster. Just FYI.


Jeff-

That is what I am worried about. But if all else fails then what do we do?

[Mkelcy]

Originally Posted by 70rs

That is what I am worried about. But if all else fails then what do we do?

If your son is forced to act, that likely means that the school system hasn't acted. In which case the school system will likely defend its failure to protect your son by denying that there was ever an issue - leaving you and your son hanging.

Document everything, in writing, to the school system. Take pictures and send them along with your letters. Talk to other parents who have kids in your son's class, call CPS for the kid that's doing the bullying, hire a lawyer and sue the school system and the parents of the kid that's acting out - but in today's PC world, do not let your son retaliate.

[70rs]

Originally Posted by Mkelcy

If your son is forced to act, that likely means that the school system hasn't acted. In which case the school system will likely defend its failure to protect your son by denying that there was ever an issue - leaving you and your son hanging.

Document everything, in writing, to the school system. Take pictures and send them along with your letters. Talk to other parents who have kids in your son's class, call CPS for the kid that's doing the bullying, hire a lawyer and sue the school system and the parents of the kid that's acting out - but in today's PC world, do not let your son retaliate.

He won't. But I did tell him to not let that kid put his hands on him anymore. He will go with that and stop at blocking him.

[DFRESH]

Originally Posted by skatinjay27

so thats how you got that janitor job!

LOL---yeah, her classroom is always the cleanest since I've been there. Sorry for the hijack---

Doug

[70rs]

Originally Posted by DFRESH

LOL---yeah, her classroom is always the cleanest since I've been there. Sorry for the hijack---

Doug

It's all good. A little humor is always appreciated!

[BonzoHansen]

Originally Posted by ProdigyCustoms

The problem is if your son does not at least knock him on his ass, he will be the sissy who's daddy handled it for him. We did that one time and it got really bad for my middle son. After we had him moved from the class he was getting screwed with from everyone. Lucky for us we were moving anyway to a better school district.

I agree with that when they are older. But this little boy is 6.

[70rs]

[QUOTE=ProdigyCustoms;264155]The problem is if your son does not at least knock him on his ass, he will be the sissy who's daddy handled it for him.



I agree Frank, and how I would love to turn my son loose on this kids ass! But, his age, the current state of PC crap and the fact that everyone is lawsuit happy keeps me from doing that. One day this kid will get it, from my kid or someone elses. But at 5 (almost 6) it needs to be handled carefully on my end. My son has training to fight. He is taller, stronger and I think alot smarter than the other kid. It would be an unfair fight to say the least. The legal end of this is not one I want to be on the defending side of. The last thing I need is for this kids parents to come after me because my kid waxed the floor with thiers. And if this kids dad wants to come to me and call me a sissy for handling it, let him. I can handle most situations on my own that way just fine.

Ten years ago, no sweat. Now, it is a problem.
But I do appreciate the advice very much.

[RECOVERY ROOM]

Originally Posted by Mkelcy

File suit against the parents, the principal and the school district on Monday. The complaint doesn't need to be fancy, it doesn't even need to withstand a demurrer. All it needs to do is to get their attention. Have the complaint served on Monday, by a process server, in person, at the school - make sure you sue and serve the principal personally and make sure you allege that he/she has willfully failed to follow district policy. It'll cost you a little to prepare the complaint and to have it personally served, but you want shock and awe.

DO NOT encourage or allow you son to kick the bejeesus out of the other kid. That will only muddy the record, and may expose you and your kid to a world of hurt. The "parents" of the other kid are clearly not suitable to be rearing young, and will only seize on any retaliation to pursue a claim against you.

My wife is a lawyer and I had her read this,This is a good way to expose the problem with out any more issues.The school will not want this getting out in the general public........My thoughts are to confront the parents off school grounds and see what there attitude is

[Mr.VENGEANCE]

I hear what Frank is saying and agree to a point BUT

hell have PLENTY of chances to do that soon enough.. Ive always been a true believer of "choose your battles wisely.

if that needs to be Daddys battle then so be it.. just remember these are the building blocks of life man.. hes gonna have to knuckle up one day..

just maybe this isnt the day.

[70rs]

Originally Posted by RECOVERY ROOM

My wife is a lawyer and I had her read this,This is a good way to expose the problem with out any more issues.The school will not want this getting out in the general public........My thoughts are to confront the parents off school grounds and see what there attitude is

I have been told the other parents were talked to twice about this already and were non responsive. Like it was no big deal and didn't care to hear about it. The exact words from the teacher were "like talking to a brick wall".

If I have to confront them and get that kind of response it will get real ugly real fast. I don't need that kind of excitement in my life right now. But if all else fails.....

My first thought is to make it VERY public if they(the school) does nothing to fix the problem.
Thanks for the input Tracy