I hope this will help with the motivation. I have "been there done that" but it was alot of years ago and I have to do randon and annual drug tests due to my job and license. I started going back to church about 10 years ago and met this single guy at church. He liked cars, guns, and baseball. It was all the the Wrong cars(ford), and baseball teams(yankees) but I put up with it. He bought a 67 mustang and I worked him through parts choices and helped with the work. So jump forward 10 years, and numerous bottles of beer, several 1000 rounds of ammo, greasey handsand busted knuckles, alot of Red Sox yankee games, and his marriage of 19 months but i never knew he smoked weed occasionally and neither did his wife until they where engaged. I guess a habbit left over from his younger days. Well the long time free spirited single guy and a some what anal female started having a tuff time adjusting to marriage and life together. His causal habbit increased as marital preasures did. I found out about his pot use 2 months ago when he started acting weird and unstable. He is now in the county jail and is loosing EVERYTHING. He is on 23.5 hour a day lock down and headed for the mental ward. It looks like he had found and been smoking some "really good stuff" but what made it really good has fried his brain. He made about 6 very bad choices all of them are way out of character for him. Our pastor has known him much longer than I and is visiting him 4 times a week and has told me the person we new is not there any more.