the thing is, in second gear your not running 750tq to the ground.... assuming your 2.nd gear ratio is arround 2.. and your are a running 3.73 rear your tourqur to the ground is 750x2x3.73=5595 foot pounds of tourque.. !!! and over 6000 with a 4.11 !
if you have grease or oil on the axle flange you will bend the studs... it needs to be dry and the bolts torqued well a grade 8 - 1/2 inch bolt should be in the 110+ tourque range
I did have an axle seal leak for a minute........ and my gears are 3.55